A Mother’s Love

This is the story of three mothers and their love for their family. You may be wondering how this relates to Crohn’s or any other chronic illness. Well, let me tell you . . . when you have a chronic illness, you may be the patient, but, it’s not all about you.

I have had Crohn’s for almost 28 years. In that time, I have been in and out of the hospital many times; had four major surgeries; five or six outpatient surgeries; 30+ procedures; IV infusions; and, countless shots, lab work and appointments. Nothing hurts more than the look of disappointment from your child because you can’t do something they want to do. Through the sacrificial love all mothers have for their children, I have gone out shopping with my daughter or gone to a concert with my son when I had a flare and should have stayed home. I would rather grin and bear it once in awhile in exchange for quality time with my children.

We are always our mother’s child. I was almost 25 years old and married when I was diagnosed with Crohn’s. My mom has been there supporting me and helping me and making her own sacrifices.

My mom has cancelled trips; stayed with me in the hospital; and, taken me to appointments. She has cooked meals; washed my clothes; and, cleaned my house. And, at the last minute, she has dropped everything to take care of my children. I know it hurts my heart when my children are sick. I can only imagine what it’s like to see your adult child in pain and rolling into surgery. I hope she knows how much I appreciate her sacrifices.

Some family you’re born into and some come later through marriage. My mother in-law has treated me as her own from the day I met her. She has made sacrifices to take care of me, too. She has taken me to appointments; taken care of my children; and, stayed with me in the hospital. And, she has even helped with wound care after surgery. Never once has she acted like I was a burden. Another example of sacrificial love.

Reflection: At some point, we all make sacrifices for others. If we’re lucky, we have been blessed by the sacrifices others have made for us.